I would have a problem with it and this is why: this is not a test, this is a lack of thought, [immaturity], insensitivity and flat out callousness. The ring does not have to be the HOPE DIAMOND, which has a curse on it by the way – but represents symbolically his commitment to you and how he feels about you as the person he plans to spend the rest of his life with. This is not the time for a freakin’ game?! If you would pull this crap, I would never trust you with the future of my life, hearth and home. Honestly, we are all suppose to be adults, here. It should not be focused solely on the amount, but you shouldn’t want to go cheap and then say, ‘I am doing this as a test to see if she loves me for me?’ If women used that principle, then women should say, “I know what you make since we have been together all these years and this the best you can do? I am out of here!!’ See, what you have started?! Vintage or estate jewelry is great to give and it can be affordable and pricey. Don’t do something tacky like that, fellas. Stop thinking in terms of what you giving up – because clearly, you getting something that is absolutely priceless.
Take the Hallmark approach to life:
“When you care enough to send the very best.”
If you can’t do that, just don’t do it.